You Are Worth It!

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We entered the last strip club of the night to find it packed and buzzing with action. The smell of alcohol and musty, old carpet filled our noses. Although each outreach we go on is unique, a night like this in the club felt very familiar to me. It reminded me of my days working in clubs just like this. …

The Only Time I Heard, “I Love You”

Monique Calderon Blog, Outreach 1 Comment

“What is your favorite type of group to lead?” A trainee asked as we piled into the shuttle for outreach. I thought for a moment and stated that I love the excitement mixed with nervousness that comes with a volunteer on their first night of Outreach. Little did I know that my entire group had never been in a club …

Have You Ever Felt Trapped?

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Have you ever felt trapped? Have you ever felt like no matter what you did, no matter how many hours you worked or how well you planned, you just could not make ends meet? Then, on top of all that, life happens. Before you know it, life decides to hit you from every angle and you’re just trapped. I’ve been …

Tonight is the Night

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Tonight is the night… we can feel it. I wonder if the women we were about to encounter can feel it too. Can they sense something different in the atmosphere, as they get ready for work? We didn’t know what was going to happen, but we knew it was going to be amazing! There was an overwhelming sense of joy …

DOES PORN HELP RELATIONSHIPS?

Harmony (Dust) Grillo Blog, Help for Spouses, Sex & Porn Addiction, Spouses Related Articles, Straight from Harmony's Heart, The Truth About the Sex Industry Leave a Comment

The first time I was exposed to porn, I was 3-years old.   I didn’t fully understand what I was seeing, but the pink fleshy images on the Television screen were burned into my mind.   I didn’t make the choice to watch porn until many years later. I was in an abusive relationship and watching porn made him happy. …

Getting Past Your Past: Used for Good

Harmony (Dust) Grillo Blog, Life After Sex Work, Straight from Harmony's Heart 2 Comments

If you have been a follower of Jesus for more than 5 minutes, you have probably figured out that your faith doesn’t make you immune to the troubles and hardships of life. Even in the past couple of years, I have been faced with betrayals, great loss, and the tragic deaths of two beloved family members. I love Jesus and …

Getting Past Your Past: Your Story Matters

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I remember the first time I shared my story at church. Just as the congregation was trickling in, a woman looked at me and said, “Are you sure you want to do this? People will never look at you the same.”   Panic set it. Maybe a story like mine was fine to share in the strip clubs, but not …

Getting Past Your Past: The Hard Work of Forgiveness

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I used to think that some things were simply unforgivable, rape and murder among them. I felt completely justified in hating the ex-boyfriend who raped me. To forgive him seemed to mean that what he did was OK, and it wasn’t. What I have since discovered is that forgiveness isn’t endorsement and it certainly isn’t accompanied by warm, fuzzy feelings. …

Getting Past Your Past: Not A Victim

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At one point or another, most of us have been a victim of something.  Whether it is abuse, discrimination, wrong doing, or a false accusation, being a victim can be painful, frustrating, and even devastating. Depending on the circumstances, victimization can leave us with a profound sense of powerlessness and even hopelessness. Even when the circumstance has passed, and tempt …