Too Fat To Be A Stripper

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“You’re too fat to be a stripper…” After skimming through the 3,000 comments people have left on the Buzzfeed video of my story so far, this comment and the 5 others like it are the ones that got stuck in my head.  (I know, I know, don’t read the comments!) Not the ones from young girls who were planning to …

She is a Daughter, Mother, Friend, Leader

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91,980,225,000 pornographic videos were viewed on one subscription-based website in 2016 alone. Not only that, but the revenues of the sex and porn industry in the U.S. are bigger than the NFL, NBA and MLB combined. It’s time to face the harsh reality of the sex industry – behind these ‘numbers’. We can no longer glamorize the sex industry and …

As Much As I Love Motorhomes

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One evening in 2003, I found myself sitting in my car across the street from the strip club where I used to work. I felt like I was sitting outside of a prison that had once held me captive. I remembered what it felt like to be a 19-year-old girl in financial despair, who, after experiencing a lifetime of chaos …

Be A Part Of Her Story

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Leaving is hard, staying out is harder. 89% of women in the sex industry said they want to escape, but see no other means of survival. Even for those who do leave, most end up going right back. Whether it is dealing with the impact of trauma in their lives, a lack of employable job skills and work experience, financial …

Getting Past Your Past: Used for Good

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If you have been a follower of Jesus for more than 5 minutes, you have probably figured out that your faith doesn’t make you immune to the troubles and hardships of life. Even in the past couple of years, I have been faced with betrayals, great loss, and the tragic deaths of two beloved family members. I love Jesus and …

Getting Past Your Past: Your Story Matters

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I remember the first time I shared my story at church. Just as the congregation was trickling in, a woman looked at me and said, “Are you sure you want to do this? People will never look at you the same.”   Panic set it. Maybe a story like mine was fine to share in the strip clubs, but not …

Getting Past Your Past: The Hard Work of Forgiveness

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I used to think that some things were simply unforgivable, rape and murder among them. I felt completely justified in hating the ex-boyfriend who raped me. To forgive him seemed to mean that what he did was OK, and it wasn’t. What I have since discovered is that forgiveness isn’t endorsement and it certainly isn’t accompanied by warm, fuzzy feelings. …

Getting Past Your Past: Not A Victim

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At one point or another, most of us have been a victim of something.  Whether it is abuse, discrimination, wrong doing, or a false accusation, being a victim can be painful, frustrating, and even devastating. Depending on the circumstances, victimization can leave us with a profound sense of powerlessness and even hopelessness. Even when the circumstance has passed, and tempt …

Getting Past Your Past: Replace the Lies

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I used to believe a lot of lies. They were so woven into the fabric of my being that they became my personal truth. I believed that I was worthless, stupid, and unlovable.  I believed that I was destined to be abused or abandoned by any male I ever cared for. My life reflected what I thought to be true, …

Getting Past Your Past: Breaking the Silence

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I was sexually abused as a child and raped as a teen. There was a time in my life when I never thought I would be able to utter those words.  I thought that if I were to say them, someone would have to put me in a straight jacket and lock me up in a mental institution.  I was …