Getting Past Your Past: Not A Victim

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At one point or another, most of us have been a victim of something.  Whether it is abuse, discrimination, wrong doing, or a false accusation, being a victim can be painful, frustrating, and even devastating. Depending on the circumstances, victimization can leave us with a profound sense of powerlessness and even hopelessness. Even when the circumstance has passed, and tempt …

Getting Past Your Past: Replace the Lies

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I used to believe a lot of lies. They were so woven into the fabric of my being that they became my personal truth. I believed that I was worthless, stupid, and unlovable.  I believed that I was destined to be abused or abandoned by any male I ever cared for. My life reflected what I thought to be true, …

Getting Past Your Past: Breaking the Silence

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I was sexually abused as a child and raped as a teen. There was a time in my life when I never thought I would be able to utter those words.  I thought that if I were to say them, someone would have to put me in a straight jacket and lock me up in a mental institution.  I was …

Getting Past Your Past: Facing the Pain

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We have been called to a life of freedom, yet are often held back by the pain of our past.  I know this because I have had a lot of “past” to overcome– from sexual abuse and rape, to working as a stripper under the control of my boyfriend/pimp.  The healing journey wasn’t always easy, but it was worth it.  For the …

“You Have Saved a Life”

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Day in and day out, women reach out to Treasures to share their deep cry for help and their depth of need of support. One rewarding facet to answering a phone call at Treasures is hearing a sigh of relief from a caller when she realizes that help and support is available for her. We want you to see firsthand the impact …

IS PORN EMPOWERING TO THE WOMEN INVOLVED?

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There is a prevailing belief in our culture that porn is not only harmless, but empowering to the women involved. The line of thinking goes something like this:   “Women in porn are consenting adults, doing this by choice. They are empowered by virtue of their sexually liberation. And good for them for using what ‘God gave them’ to get …

This is What Happened to the 1st Woman Who Contacted Treasures!

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  Rejected. Dysfunctional. Empty.   These were the very real words that Amber* used to describe her life and the way she felt in 2003.   “No matter how much money I made, I still felt empty and unsatisfied. I thought that the ‘glamorous’ lifestyle would make me feel better about myself, but stripping only made me feel even more worthless.” …

My Tribute to Prince

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I have been in denial about Prince since I first heard earlier this afternoon. So much to process. His music was a part of two major defining moments in my life; the night I began working in the strip club and the night I left. Purple Rain was the song I auditioned to, and it was the song became the …

She’ll Never Walk Away: A Commentary on The Weekend’s Song, “In the Night”

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    “You’ll be back. Nobody ever leaves.”   This is what they told me the night I quit working at the strip club.   My experience told me they were right. The only woman I ever saw leave the club married a rich costumer that had become a regular of hers. Not exactly a fairytale ending. More like a …

Scars and Stilettos: The first pages

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For those of you who haven’t read it, I am sharing the first few pages of my memoir, Scars and Stilettos. It took me 7 years, several writing classes and at least 3 complete re-writes to write this book!  Hearing the stories of women (and youth) who have been inspired to escape unhealthy relationships or walk away from the sex industry/the life …