Lamar Odom Wanted to Get “Far Away”

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UPDATE: 10/20/15

According to CNN, in a statement released Tuesday, Odom’s aunt JaNean Mercer and the Odom family thanked doctors and nurses who cared for him at a Las Vegas hospital, asking supporters to keep praying for him.

“As Lamar begins a new chapter in his road to recovery, PLEASE continue to uplift him and the family in prayer. He continues to make miraculous progress, taking a few steps in Los Angeles. We couldn’t be more overjoyed!” the statement said.

Former NBA player known for his marriage to Khloe Kardashian, Lamar Odom, remains unresponsive in a Nevada hospital after being found unconscious at a legal brothel. According to CNN, Lamar said he went to the brothel because he 

wanted to get “Far Away”.  

My heart absolutely breaks over this.  And after hearing more about his story; that his father, a heroin addict, left when he was young, that his mother died when he was 12 that he has lost a child to SIDS and a cousin to a gun shot, I can understand why he felt like getting “far away”.  

I can understand what drove him to that brothel; what led him to use mind-altering substances. It seems as though he was doing what many of us do when we are faced with deep pain and loss… look for an escape. 

I have to be honest, after my brother-in-law’s unexpected and tragic death a couple of weeks ago, I too have been looking for escapes.  Not in the form of brothels and cocaine.  But a little more food.  A little more time on Instagram. A little more TV.  Just a “little more” to distract me from the grief. I understand the drive to avoid pain, and yet, I am the first to tell you that the best way to overcome pain is to face it… head on, with the love, grace and strength of God. 

The desire to avoid pain is one of the underlying currents that drives addiction. It is one of the contributing factors to the porn epidemic.  It is part of the reason that people in the U.S. spend over $13 billion on the commercial sex industry, more than we spend the NBA, NFL and Major League Baseball combined. 

The truth is, porn, food, drugs, and sex don’t heal the pain.  They don’t make us feel better, only different. This is a temporary fix at best.  These prescriptions for the pain are insufficient. When the high is over or the pizza is gone, our pain is still there. What’s worse, our attempts to avoid pain end up leaving us with negative consequences that tend to cause more.  

For me, facing pain has looked differently depending on the season and the specific hurt I am struggling with.  Facing the pain has looked like seeing a therapist, or joining a recovery group. It has looked like working with a sponsor or sharing vulnerably with a friend.  It has looked like reading a book or journaling.  One thing is for certain, I have never overcome pain by avoiding it. 

I pray that Lamar Odom would indeed find escape from his pain.  Only I pray that it would come in the form of physical and emotional healing.  Radical, life-changing, deep healing. I pray that it would look like finding the tools to break free from the hurts that drove him to the brothel.  At this point, it would take a miracle.  Will you join me in praying for the miraculous physical, emotional and spiritual healing of Lamar Odom? 

Love, Harmony


Ps. Please pray for the Treasures-Trained outreach team that has been reaching the particular brothel where Lamar was found for several years.  Please pray that God would use them mightily to bring hope, healing and freedom to the brothel owner and the women and employees who work there.  


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Comments 1

  1. gnam

    Blessed article. His 2 close friends also died of overdoses and possible abuse during his life. Thank you for your ministry reaching out. JEsus came to give us life abundantly but the thief comes to steal,kill, and destroy.#lordgiveusamiracleforlamar

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