My friend jokingly renamed Valentine’s Day, “Single Awareness Day”. I find that quite humorous. And true.
The truth is, for many who are single; Valentine’s is a day when we are reminded of our status. But I have also heard grumbles and groans from women who are in relationships as Valentine’s Day reminds them of the love and romance that is lacking in their lives.
Just driving my daughter to school I passed by at least 3 street vendors selling flowers and balloons as well as at least a dozen high school students carrying gigantic heart-shaped Mylar balloons and armfuls of long stems.
Awareness indeed. You can’t go anywhere without being reminded it’s Valentine’s Day.
Valentine’s Day is a day about love. Love is at the core of the message of Treasures.
I have been in seasons where I mistook proximity for love. I thought that just because someone was in my life, that meant they loved me. I have also mistaken tolerance for love. I thought that just because someone “put up with me”, they loved me.
And I have even mistaken abuse for love.
I have come to know Love as a healing, transforming, life giving, honoring, redeeming thing. Jesus has shown me this kind of love.
I have been single and married and single again…yet through it all I know that I am deeply loved with a love that will never fail. As I have allowed God to show me what true love is, I am less likely to settle for a counterfeit.
I identify with the story of the woman at the well (John 4). I relate to her longing. I have tried to get people to fill deep needs and voids, only to find that they fall short every time because they were never designed to meet needs only God can meet. And I have experience the ONE THING that can satisfy those needs through my relationship with God.
I believe that marriage is a gift. And I believe singleness is a gift. When we invite God into our relationship status and truly surrender our desires to Him, we will find ourselves satisfied—our longing fulfilled. He is the ultimate Valentine. His love never fails. My prayer for you today is that whatever your “relationship status” you would experience a deeper revelation of His love. It’s the real thing.
So what are you celebrating today?
Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you. ? Isaiah 54:10
The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness. ? Jeremiah 31:3
Neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ? Romans 8:39
And for a special Valentine’s treat, we interviewed our friends Jim and Roe Dodgen and asked them questions about their 36-year marriage. Their story is real, raw and beautiful. Enjoy!