DOES PORN HELP RELATIONSHIPS?

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The first time I was exposed to porn, I was 3-years old.   I didn’t fully understand what I was seeing, but the pink fleshy images on the Television screen were burned into my mind.   I didn’t make the choice to watch porn until many years later. I was in an abusive relationship and watching porn made him happy. …

IS PORN EMPOWERING TO THE WOMEN INVOLVED?

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There is a prevailing belief in our culture that porn is not only harmless, but empowering to the women involved. The line of thinking goes something like this:   “Women in porn are consenting adults, doing this by choice. They are empowered by virtue of their sexually liberation. And good for them for using what ‘God gave them’ to get …

She’ll Never Walk Away: A Commentary on The Weekend’s Song, “In the Night”

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    “You’ll be back. Nobody ever leaves.”   This is what they told me the night I quit working at the strip club.   My experience told me they were right. The only woman I ever saw leave the club married a rich costumer that had become a regular of hers. Not exactly a fairytale ending. More like a …

Desecration Dance

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Defense mechanisms: We all have them. They make it possible for us to survive in our own skin when it hurts, when it is burned and scorched and stretched tightly around us in such a way that we feel immobilized. Somewhere, deep inside, we find a way to carry on with our daily lives when nothing around us makes sense. …

Lamar Odom Wanted to Get “Far Away”

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  UPDATE: 10/20/15 According to CNN, in a statement released Tuesday, Odom’s aunt JaNean Mercer and the Odom family thanked doctors and nurses who cared for him at a Las Vegas hospital, asking supporters to keep praying for him. “As Lamar begins a new chapter in his road to recovery, PLEASE continue to uplift him and the family in prayer. He …

Fifty Shades of Reality, through the eyes of someone who has lived it

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  by Divine Roman Fifty Shades of Grey is not reality. I spent 22 years working in the sex industry, 14 of which were spent solely as a Dominatrix. So, I feel like I am an expert on a subject most people only narrowly understand, if at all. While Fifty Shades is “entertainment”, the danger is that it is enticing people to join …

Fifty Shades of Grey

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  There is no shortage of opinions on the highly controversial book turned movie that will be hitting the big screen this Valentine’s Day weekend. There are arguments that are sure to point out its pornographic nature and the tendency of porn to dehumanize women, normalize violence against women and interfere with true intimacy in relationships. Others scoff at what …

How Porn Affects the Brain

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by Anna Malika There is no way around it—overcoming a struggle with pornography is a strenuous and sometimes a never-ending battle. Due to the fact that some of you have never experienced the thought process of someone recovering from pornography, here is a taste of it: A man turns on his computer to research where to vacation with his wife …

Take off the cape: Why using the word “rescue” is harmful to anti-trafficking efforts

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I have often said that those of us who provide care and services to sex trafficking victims need to be careful not to assume our work consists of jumping on a white horse, tossing on our superhero capes and thinking that we are here to “rescue” the people we are serving.  I have talked to people, newly exposed to the issue of …

How Our Brains See Men as People and Women as Body Parts

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Great article from Science Daily about how we see men as people and women as body parts. I just wonder what a profound impact it would have on the sex industry if we as a culture were more likely to see women as humans…     How Our Brains See Men as People and Women as Body Parts: Both Genders …