I am getting married in TWO weeks!!!!

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I am getting married in TWO weeks to the love of my life! We are so in love it is almost nauseating. Almost. Still, I remember what it took to get here.   I remember the pain… Of being a wife abandoned. Of the daggers of rejection and fear for my future. My dream of having a family was shattered.   I would …

Getting Published: How to Write a Book Proposal

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Getting Published: How To Write a Book Proposal One of the first steps in getting published is to create a strong proposal. A good proposal will convince the recipient of the need for your book’s existence.  It is important that you prove that this book needs to be written, that it’s marketable, and that YOU are the best person to write it. …

Confessions of an “Unsolicited Advice-Giver”

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Confessions of an “Unsolicited Advice-Giver” I am a recovering “unsolicited advice-giver”. If you had a problem, I was going to tell you exactly how to fix it… passionately and emphatically.   And, lucky you, I usually had a book recommendation to go along with my input. If you were a good friend, you would probably receive said book as a gift …

Getting Your Book Published

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Hey Friends, It’s been a while since I wrote something for the blog series on Writing a Book!  Today, a really good friend of mine was asking for input on how to go about getting a book published.  While I am no expert in this, I can share what I learned in the process of getting my memoir Scars and …

I never want to go through this again…

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I have seen some hard years in my lifetime, but 2009 and 2010 were among the most painful and challenging years I have lived. I took the photo above on a particularly hard day.  When I saw my face after a really good crying session, I decided it was photo worthy. I keep it as a reminder of this very difficult …

I found love on Fairfax Boulevard: Part 2

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I found love on Fairfax Boulevard: Part 2   I have been sick all week and Friday, the morning of the 10 Year Anniversary of Treasures, I woke up without a voice. Literally no voice.  Barely able to whisper. I wondered if I should even go on the outreach with the rest of the team.. My childhood best friend, Melissa …

Your Story Matters, But it Doesn’t Define You

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Your Story Matters, But it Doesn’t Define You   I still remember the first time I was getting ready to share my story in a church setting.  Just as the congregation was getting ready to trickle in, a woman looked at me and said, “Are you sure you want to do this? People will never look at you the same …

Who will you be when you take off your costume?

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When I was 20 years old, I showed up to a club on Sunset Blvd. in stilettos and a cheetah print, G-string leotard and called it a Halloween costume. Tonight at a Costume Carnival, I will be dressed as the Queen of Hearts. If I can get her to cooperate, my daughter will be Alice in Wonderland:) Although my costume choices …

Madonna meets Knight in Shining Armor

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  Beyond sex, what the sex industry sells is fantasy.   When I think back to my 19-year old self, in many ways, I was very naïve, yet I exhibited a pattern of behavior that I learned in the strip club that would have made most people think otherwise. I watched the older women and learned to move like them—to …

How to Write a Memoir Part 4: Keeping the Reader Engaged

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How to Write a Book Part 4:  Keeping the Reader Engaged I have written thousands of pages of material intended to be a part of my memoir.  Most of it was pretty terrible. My friend Ashley Abercrombie would take a bullet for me.  That is the kind of friend she is.  That is also the reason that she is the …