Too Fat To Be A Stripper

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“You’re too fat to be a stripper…” After skimming through the 3,000 comments people have left on the Buzzfeed video of my story so far, this comment and the 5 others like it are the ones that got stuck in my head.  (I know, I know, don’t read the comments!) Not the ones from young girls who were planning to …

The Truth About Hope

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Whether we are dealing with grief, loss, broken relationships, or the realities of injustice today, we often find ourselves facing a gap between the reality of our circumstances and our expectations of the way things should be. Harmony shares insights from her own experiences with disappointment that will help you discover the truth about hope and how to maintain it through difficult …

DOES PORN HELP RELATIONSHIPS?

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The first time I was exposed to porn, I was 3-years old.   I didn’t fully understand what I was seeing, but the pink fleshy images on the Television screen were burned into my mind.   I didn’t make the choice to watch porn until many years later. I was in an abusive relationship and watching porn made him happy. …

Getting Past Your Past: Used for Good

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If you have been a follower of Jesus for more than 5 minutes, you have probably figured out that your faith doesn’t make you immune to the troubles and hardships of life. Even in the past couple of years, I have been faced with betrayals, great loss, and the tragic deaths of two beloved family members. I love Jesus and …

Getting Past Your Past: Your Story Matters

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I remember the first time I shared my story at church. Just as the congregation was trickling in, a woman looked at me and said, “Are you sure you want to do this? People will never look at you the same.”   Panic set it. Maybe a story like mine was fine to share in the strip clubs, but not …

Getting Past Your Past: The Hard Work of Forgiveness

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I used to think that some things were simply unforgivable, rape and murder among them. I felt completely justified in hating the ex-boyfriend who raped me. To forgive him seemed to mean that what he did was OK, and it wasn’t. What I have since discovered is that forgiveness isn’t endorsement and it certainly isn’t accompanied by warm, fuzzy feelings. …

Getting Past Your Past: Not A Victim

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At one point or another, most of us have been a victim of something.  Whether it is abuse, discrimination, wrong doing, or a false accusation, being a victim can be painful, frustrating, and even devastating. Depending on the circumstances, victimization can leave us with a profound sense of powerlessness and even hopelessness. Even when the circumstance has passed, and tempt …

Getting Past Your Past: Replace the Lies

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I used to believe a lot of lies. They were so woven into the fabric of my being that they became my personal truth. I believed that I was worthless, stupid, and unlovable.  I believed that I was destined to be abused or abandoned by any male I ever cared for. My life reflected what I thought to be true, …

Getting Past Your Past: Breaking the Silence

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I was sexually abused as a child and raped as a teen. There was a time in my life when I never thought I would be able to utter those words.  I thought that if I were to say them, someone would have to put me in a straight jacket and lock me up in a mental institution.  I was …

Getting Past Your Past: Facing the Pain

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We have been called to a life of freedom, yet are often held back by the pain of our past.  I know this because I have had a lot of “past” to overcome– from sexual abuse and rape, to working as a stripper under the control of my boyfriend/pimp.  The healing journey wasn’t always easy, but it was worth it.  For the …