It’s been 20 years since I left my exploiter…

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  Today, September 16th, marks 20 years since I left my exploiter and started a new life.  I told his part of my story in my memoir, Scars and Stilettos.  In memory of this special day, I decided to share that exert with you  …   As I sat waiting for my grandmother’s and aunt’s flight to arrive, the Los …

Top 3 Reasons I Became a Stripper

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I know a woman who started stripping to pay for chemotherapy. Another who began prostituting to pay for medicine for her children.  Teenagers who were convinced by pimps masquerading as boyfriends.  And I know a woman who showed up to an amateur night at a strip club, on a whim with her friends, thinking it would be adventurous and fun.  …

Too Fat To Be A Stripper

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“You’re too fat to be a stripper…” After skimming through the 3,000 comments people have left on the Buzzfeed video of my story so far, this comment and the 5 others like it are the ones that got stuck in my head.  (I know, I know, don’t read the comments!) Not the ones from young girls who were planning to …

Sneak Peak: Scars & Stilettos First Pages

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Hi Friends, Today I  was reminded of exactly why I wrote Scars and Stilettos.  A woman called me in tears after hearing from her granddaughter who had been on the streets. “Grandma, I read that book you sent me from cover to cover and I left.  I finally left. Now I just have one question,” she continued, “What do I …

Strip Clubs and Motor Homes

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One evening in 2003, I found myself sitting in my car across the street from the strip club where I used to work. I felt like I was sitting outside of a prison that had once held me captive. I remembered what it felt like to be a 19-year-old girl in financial despair, who, after experiencing a lifetime of chaos …

The Truth About Hope

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Whether we are dealing with grief, loss, broken relationships, or the realities of injustice today, we often find ourselves facing a gap between the reality of our circumstances and our expectations of the way things should be. Harmony shares insights from her own experiences with disappointment that will help you discover the truth about hope and how to maintain it through difficult …

DOES PORN HELP RELATIONSHIPS?

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The first time I was exposed to porn, I was 3-years old.   I didn’t fully understand what I was seeing, but the pink fleshy images on the Television screen were burned into my mind.   I didn’t make the choice to watch porn until many years later. I was in an abusive relationship and watching porn made him happy. …

Getting Past Your Past: Used for Good

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If you have been a follower of Jesus for more than 5 minutes, you have probably figured out that your faith doesn’t make you immune to the troubles and hardships of life. Even in the past couple of years, I have been faced with betrayals, great loss, and the tragic deaths of two beloved family members. I love Jesus and …

Getting Past Your Past: Your Story Matters

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I remember the first time I shared my story at church. Just as the congregation was trickling in, a woman looked at me and said, “Are you sure you want to do this? People will never look at you the same.”   Panic set it. Maybe a story like mine was fine to share in the strip clubs, but not …

Getting Past Your Past: The Hard Work of Forgiveness

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I used to think that some things were simply unforgivable, rape and murder among them. I felt completely justified in hating the ex-boyfriend who raped me. To forgive him seemed to mean that what he did was OK, and it wasn’t. What I have since discovered is that forgiveness isn’t endorsement and it certainly isn’t accompanied by warm, fuzzy feelings. …