DOES PORN HELP RELATIONSHIPS?

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The first time I was exposed to porn, I was 3-years old.   I didn’t fully understand what I was seeing, but the pink fleshy images on the Television screen were burned into my mind.   I didn’t make the choice to watch porn until many years later. I was in an abusive relationship and watching porn made him happy. …

IS PORN EMPOWERING TO THE WOMEN INVOLVED?

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There is a prevailing belief in our culture that porn is not only harmless, but empowering to the women involved. The line of thinking goes something like this:   “Women in porn are consenting adults, doing this by choice. They are empowered by virtue of their sexually liberation. And good for them for using what ‘God gave them’ to get …

I am getting married in TWO weeks!!!!

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I am getting married in TWO weeks to the love of my life! We are so in love it is almost nauseating. Almost. Still, I remember what it took to get here.   I remember the pain… Of being a wife abandoned. Of the daggers of rejection and fear for my future. My dream of having a family was shattered.   I would …

How Porn Affects the Brain

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by Anna Malika There is no way around it—overcoming a struggle with pornography is a strenuous and sometimes a never-ending battle. Due to the fact that some of you have never experienced the thought process of someone recovering from pornography, here is a taste of it: A man turns on his computer to research where to vacation with his wife …

7 Negative Effects of Porn

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I found this to be a very informative, research based assessment of some of the negative effects of porn.   In the US, we are spending over $3,000 a second on porn… I think it is worth taking some time to consider how this might be affecting us… 7 Negative Effects of Porn by BJ Stockman   This is a …

Dreams Redeemed Pt 3: Keep Dreaming

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Dreams Redeemed Pt 3: Keep Dreaming   Have you ever wondered, “If God is so good, then why is this happening?”   Many of us have found ourselves faced with circumstances that would cause us to call God’s character into question.  We question His very goodness and the goodness of His plans for our lives. And if there isn’t a …

Dreams Redeemed Pt 2: Don’t Give Up

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Dreams Redeemed Pt 2: Don’t give up In my last blog on Dreams Redeemed, I proposed that what happens when the dream is deferred largely depends on what happens to the dreamer. How we respond in the face of disappointed dreams will determine whether we will be moved closer to the God Dream or further from it.   I have …

Dreams Redeemed Pt 1: Dreams Deferred

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Dreams Redeemed Pt 1: Dreams Deferred   Harlem by Langston Hughes What happens to a dream deferred?          Does it dry up           like a raisin in the sun?           Or fester like a sore–           And then run?           Does it stink like rotten meat?           Or crust and sugar over–           like a syrupy sweet?            Maybe …

Are You in Love with a Sex Addict?

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  Sex addiction is a family issue.  By definition, sex addiction is a “problem in which one engages in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior despite increasing negative consequences to one’s self or others (American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy).  More often than not, the negative consequences the sexually addicted person suffers impact the people they love just …

Surrendering the Canvas: Understanding Sex Addiction

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40 million adults in the U.S. regularly visit pornographic websites and 1/3 of these visitors are women. The question is “Why, and what does it have to do with us?” What I am learning about sex addiction in its various forms is that it is about avoiding relational pain. Real relationships and intimacy force us to engage with people on …