DOES PORN HELP RELATIONSHIPS?

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The first time I was exposed to porn, I was 3-years old.   I didn’t fully understand what I was seeing, but the pink fleshy images on the Television screen were burned into my mind.   I didn’t make the choice to watch porn until many years later. I was in an abusive relationship and watching porn made him happy. …

MY STORY: THE PARTS FORMERLY UNTOLD

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On Friday, I had the opportunity to share my story at Saddleback, including parts of my story I don’t usually share. It was a very special night for me because I used to drive in 74 miles of LA traffic with my 10-month old daughter in the back seat every Friday for 2 years to attend Celebrate Recovery at Saddleback! I …

I am getting married in TWO weeks!!!!

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I am getting married in TWO weeks to the love of my life! We are so in love it is almost nauseating. Almost. Still, I remember what it took to get here.   I remember the pain… Of being a wife abandoned. Of the daggers of rejection and fear for my future. My dream of having a family was shattered.   I would …

How Porn Affects the Brain

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by Anna Malika There is no way around it—overcoming a struggle with pornography is a strenuous and sometimes a never-ending battle. Due to the fact that some of you have never experienced the thought process of someone recovering from pornography, here is a taste of it: A man turns on his computer to research where to vacation with his wife …

I never want to go through this again…

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I have seen some hard years in my lifetime, but 2009 and 2010 were among the most painful and challenging years I have lived. I took the photo above on a particularly hard day.  When I saw my face after a really good crying session, I decided it was photo worthy. I keep it as a reminder of this very difficult …

Hope Has Wings and Other Thoughts on Grief

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“I am still confident of this, I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living” Psalms 27:13 I sat under the shade of the tree in my backyard on a beautiful spring day.  The sun and cloudless sky did not share my gloom.  A squirrel scurried gleefully along my fence on a mission to steal …

Are You in Love with a Sex Addict?

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  Sex addiction is a family issue.  By definition, sex addiction is a “problem in which one engages in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior despite increasing negative consequences to one’s self or others (American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy).  More often than not, the negative consequences the sexually addicted person suffers impact the people they love just …

Surrendering the Canvas: Understanding Sex Addiction

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40 million adults in the U.S. regularly visit pornographic websites and 1/3 of these visitors are women. The question is “Why, and what does it have to do with us?” What I am learning about sex addiction in its various forms is that it is about avoiding relational pain. Real relationships and intimacy force us to engage with people on …