Top 3 Reasons I Became a Stripper

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I know a woman who started stripping to pay for chemotherapy. Another who began prostituting to pay for medicine for her children.  Teenagers who were convinced by pimps masquerading as boyfriends.  And I know a woman who showed up to an amateur night at a strip club, on a whim with her friends, thinking it would be adventurous and fun.  …

Too Fat To Be A Stripper

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“You’re too fat to be a stripper…” After skimming through the 3,000 comments people have left on the Buzzfeed video of my story so far, this comment and the 5 others like it are the ones that got stuck in my head.  (I know, I know, don’t read the comments!) Not the ones from young girls who were planning to …

Sneak Peak: Scars & Stilettos First Pages

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Hi Friends, Today I  was reminded of exactly why I wrote Scars and Stilettos.  A woman called me in tears after hearing from her granddaughter who had been on the streets. “Grandma, I read that book you sent me from cover to cover and I left.  I finally left. Now I just have one question,” she continued, “What do I …

Getting Past Your Past: Used for Good

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If you have been a follower of Jesus for more than 5 minutes, you have probably figured out that your faith doesn’t make you immune to the troubles and hardships of life. Even in the past couple of years, I have been faced with betrayals, great loss, and the tragic deaths of two beloved family members. I love Jesus and …

Getting Past Your Past: Your Story Matters

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I remember the first time I shared my story at church. Just as the congregation was trickling in, a woman looked at me and said, “Are you sure you want to do this? People will never look at you the same.”   Panic set it. Maybe a story like mine was fine to share in the strip clubs, but not …

Getting Past Your Past: The Hard Work of Forgiveness

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I used to think that some things were simply unforgivable, rape and murder among them. I felt completely justified in hating the ex-boyfriend who raped me. To forgive him seemed to mean that what he did was OK, and it wasn’t. What I have since discovered is that forgiveness isn’t endorsement and it certainly isn’t accompanied by warm, fuzzy feelings. …

Getting Past Your Past: Not A Victim

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At one point or another, most of us have been a victim of something.  Whether it is abuse, discrimination, wrong doing, or a false accusation, being a victim can be painful, frustrating, and even devastating. Depending on the circumstances, victimization can leave us with a profound sense of powerlessness and even hopelessness. Even when the circumstance has passed, and tempt …

Getting Past Your Past: Replace the Lies

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I used to believe a lot of lies. They were so woven into the fabric of my being that they became my personal truth. I believed that I was worthless, stupid, and unlovable.  I believed that I was destined to be abused or abandoned by any male I ever cared for. My life reflected what I thought to be true, …

Getting Past Your Past: Breaking the Silence

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I was sexually abused as a child and raped as a teen. There was a time in my life when I never thought I would be able to utter those words.  I thought that if I were to say them, someone would have to put me in a straight jacket and lock me up in a mental institution.  I was …

Getting Past Your Past: Facing the Pain

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We have been called to a life of freedom, yet are often held back by the pain of our past.  I know this because I have had a lot of “past” to overcome– from sexual abuse and rape, to working as a stripper under the control of my boyfriend/pimp.  The healing journey wasn’t always easy, but it was worth it.  For the …