Have You Ever Felt Trapped?

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Have you ever felt trapped? Have you ever felt like no matter what you did, no matter how many hours you worked or how well you planned, you just could not make ends meet? Then, on top of all that, life happens. Before you know it, life decides to hit you from every angle and you’re just trapped. I’ve been …

Tonight is the Night

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Tonight is the night… we can feel it. I wonder if the women we were about to encounter can feel it too. Can they sense something different in the atmosphere, as they get ready for work? We didn’t know what was going to happen, but we knew it was going to be amazing! There was an overwhelming sense of joy …

IS PORN EMPOWERING TO THE WOMEN INVOLVED?

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There is a prevailing belief in our culture that porn is not only harmless, but empowering to the women involved. The line of thinking goes something like this:   “Women in porn are consenting adults, doing this by choice. They are empowered by virtue of their sexually liberation. And good for them for using what ‘God gave them’ to get …

This is What Happened to the 1st Woman Who Contacted Treasures!

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  Rejected. Dysfunctional. Empty.   These were the very real words that Amber* used to describe her life and the way she felt in 2003.   “No matter how much money I made, I still felt empty and unsatisfied. I thought that the ‘glamorous’ lifestyle would make me feel better about myself, but stripping only made me feel even more worthless.” …

She’ll Never Walk Away: A Commentary on The Weekend’s Song, “In the Night”

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    “You’ll be back. Nobody ever leaves.”   This is what they told me the night I quit working at the strip club.   My experience told me they were right. The only woman I ever saw leave the club married a rich costumer that had become a regular of hers. Not exactly a fairytale ending. More like a …

Scars and Stilettos: The first pages

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For those of you who haven’t read it, I am sharing the first few pages of my memoir, Scars and Stilettos. It took me 7 years, several writing classes and at least 3 complete re-writes to write this book!  Hearing the stories of women (and youth) who have been inspired to escape unhealthy relationships or walk away from the sex industry/the life …

MY STORY: THE PARTS FORMERLY UNTOLD

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On Friday, I had the opportunity to share my story at Saddleback, including parts of my story I don’t usually share. It was a very special night for me because I used to drive in 74 miles of LA traffic with my 10-month old daughter in the back seat every Friday for 2 years to attend Celebrate Recovery at Saddleback! I …

Fifty Shades of Reality, through the eyes of someone who has lived it

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  by Divine Roman Fifty Shades of Grey is not reality. I spent 22 years working in the sex industry, 14 of which were spent solely as a Dominatrix. So, I feel like I am an expert on a subject most people only narrowly understand, if at all. While Fifty Shades is “entertainment”, the danger is that it is enticing people to join …

Fifty Shades of Grey

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  There is no shortage of opinions on the highly controversial book turned movie that will be hitting the big screen this Valentine’s Day weekend. There are arguments that are sure to point out its pornographic nature and the tendency of porn to dehumanize women, normalize violence against women and interfere with true intimacy in relationships. Others scoff at what …

Your Story Matters, But it Doesn’t Define You

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Your Story Matters, But it Doesn’t Define You   I still remember the first time I was getting ready to share my story in a church setting.  Just as the congregation was getting ready to trickle in, a woman looked at me and said, “Are you sure you want to do this? People will never look at you the same …